Heyyy boos… As promised.. The post all about my locs, let’s get into it.
As I mentioned in my last post I have been natural for about 10 years now. I did have a relaxer at one point and it was in hair school that I decided to go natural. I actually had a hair disaster during my transition process. Lol I was going to transition and just slowly cut my relaxer off, (mind you this was 10 years ago, I was not hair savvy at all) I had just took out a weave, and I didnt detangle my hair before I went to shampoo it. So all my relaxed hair got matted and tangled together to the point of no return, and I was forced to do my big chop from there. lol
So fast forward I’ve been natural for 10 years now and I’ve experimented with everything. The weaves, ponytails, Ive been through gallons of Ecostyler gel, cornrows, flat irons, flexi sets, protective styles, color, everything. I would say over the last 2 years I started to get frustrated with my hair. I have alot of hair, its super thick so any style besides a ponytail takes at least 2 hours. The time and money I had to spend on products, fake hair, and paying other stylists was just getting to be too much for me.
I had been thinking about locs for a looong time before I decided to go through with it. Some people would tell me things like “your hair is so pretty why would you wanna loc it” or “don’t do it, you gonna get bored” or simply “noo whyyyyy” but those were people with little to no hair saying things like that so (no shade) but they couldn’t relate to my struggle. lol You gotta know when to take peoples advice and when to smile and keep it moving..
So I started my locs on August 2nd, 2017. It is coming up on the 7 month mark in Feb! Exciting! I will tell you as most people with locs would say having patience is the hardest part of the journey. lol I have really thick hair and didn’t want it to take hours when I go to retwist my hair so that was the main reason I wanted my locs thick. I only have about 52 locs. I told myself I would wait a year before I put any jewelry in my hair and so far so good. I really cant wait to see what they look like a year from now, but I have to be patient. It’s so crazy to watch the transition before my eyes. I’m starting to feel buds and feel my hair locing in certain places and it so weird. I’ve had loose hair for soooo long it is so weird to feel my hair locing. I started my locs from 2 strand twists and so far I’ve only had 2 retwists.
I’m not gon lie I did have a tiny fear at first of how I would be perceived with my hair locd now. You know some people take one look at your clothes, or your hair, and they judge and make assumptions about you based solely on how you look. However, I got over that quickly, because its stupid. lol Why would I be concerned with what anyone thinks about me or my hair? What good is that going to do me? I remember getting sent home at my old job for wearing a headwrap! It was that day I knew I would be quitting soon, and I left a few months after that.
I hate how society and these corporate companies think they can control what I do to MY CROWN. If I want to wear a weave, a headwrap, a flat iron, faux locs or real locs THAT’S WHAT I’M GOING TO DO! I hate that in some places we have to wear our hair a certain way for it to be deemed acceptable. smh I love natural hair and I think its history and versatility is what makes it so special. I refuse to accept that society is in control of how I wear my hair or how I dress. I don’t know if I’ll wear my hair locd forever but right now this is what I’m doing and I’m loving it!!
If you have anymore questions about my loc journey or if you have locs and feel there is anything I should know along this journey, leave a comment!
Hey darlings! Thanks for stopping by! I wanted to make a blog post telling you all about my locs when it occurred to me. Most of you may not even know I am a licensed cosmetologist and have been since 2008! I rarely talk about my hair (because this is a fashion blog, not a natural hair blog lol) but I wear many hats as you can probably tell by now, which is why I wanted to write this post to give you a little insight into my journey. Get comfy, were going on a ride…
The journey starts when I’m about 12-13, I wanted to be a model. My mom, I love her. She Is my #1 fan, and she supported my dream of wanting to be a model. Back in those days it used to be her and I, waking up early, driving super far, going to modeling school, going on casting calls, photo shoots, trips to New York. I remember being the only black girl in the room, never getting the part. As young teen I really didn’t understand the complexity and inner workings of the modeling industry. I thought one takes pics, go on auditions, and sooner or later you get a part. After about 3 years of chasing that dream, I gave up and didn’t want to pursue modeling anymore. I knew even with my hair permed straight, I still was not who agencies were looking for. So I walked gracefully off the commercial modeling scene and started doing more local modeling. Modeling with troops, walking in school shows like Catwalk Classics, and modeling in college Homecoming fashion shows, was more my style. So at this point, I’m a little older now, maybe 15-16 and I had still been modeling a bit, but it definitely was not something I pursued…
That’s how hair, yoga, and fashion started to come into the picture. I feel like I’m always going to be a stylist, a yogi, and a fashion/sewing enthusiast. This journey starts in high school, I had been a shampoo girl since I was about 15-16 years old. I started at and learned the basics from @salonchristol and it was her who convinced me to sign up for hair school in high school. Which was one of the best decisions ever! I liked doing hair, it was fun, I made money, and most importantly, I got to be creative. By 17 I had my cosmetology license. I planned on just having it as a plan B, and good thing I did because that is what I fell back on when I didn’t get into Clark Atlanta the first time I applied.
I knew I was going to go to Clark Atlanta University after my first HBCU college tour in 10th grade. I didn’t apply to any other schools, I wasn’t interested in anywhere else except Clark Atlanta. So you can imagine I was heartbroken when I didn’t get in. Still, determined to make it to college, I started doing hair at a salon, and went to community college for a year. I reapplied to Clark again the following year and STILL did not get in. Can you say devastated? I beat myself up sooo bad. I wondered was I even capable of going to, let alone finishing college? I mean I had a 3.0 GPA I wasn’t a horrible student. Little did Clark Atlanta know denying me just added fuel to the fire because I was getting into that school, finishing, and walking across that stage. Period. People go to college for all kinds of reasons, I went because I had something to prove to MYSELF. So I applied a third time and this time I was not taking no for an answer. I applied, and instead of waiting on a letter in the mail, I went to Atlanta, to the admissions office, met with an adviser and told him “I’ve applied here 3 times, if you all don’t accept me, I need to know why.” I was accepted on the spot and graduated in 2013 with a degree in Fashion Merchandising.
During college is when my love for sewing & DIY fashion really began to blossom. Shoutout to @apairandaspare. That was the first DIY blog I had ever saw and stalked and the first DIY sewing project I ever tried came off her blog! lol I was in a fashion buying program so I really didn’t have any fashion design classes, but I would sit in on some of the fashion design classes at Clark and just admire them sewing and draping fabrics. I was also partying ALOT in college but I was a broke college student so I didn’t have money for new outfits all the time. I had a sewing machine, so I figured out how to use it, and I started buying vintage/thrifted clothes and revamping them into cute dresses and party outfits.
So 3 years flys by and now college is over, and I’m in that post-grad period of confusion. Fear got a hold of me and whispered in my ear “oh just go back to what you know. Go do hair, just stick with your plan B.” Plan A was ALWAYS fashion for me, back in 2013 after college, I wanted to start my blog, I wanted to create and inspire people, I knew I had it in me… but FEAR… smh So after college I went back to doing hair and 2 years into it I realized, I’m like reeally unhappy. Probably lowkey, depressed in my life right now. I’m not passionate about my work. I loved doing hair but I hated working in a corporate salon, I had no energy for anything. I was easily irritated and I just started to feel idk lost and broken spirited, I was always asking myself is this all there is to life? Work, eat, sleep???
That is when I reached out to God. In 2015 I got baptized and in 2016 I started yoga school. At that time I do think I was experiencing a spiritual awakening or transformation. This quote explains my shift perfectly “ I searched for God and found only myself. I searched for myself and found only God.”
That right there IS THE TRUTH, it is exactly what happened to me. Yoga school was a very eye-opening experience, that broke me down and built me back up. I had to unlearn so much. Studying yoga caused a shift in my personal growth and I began to find and love myself and my life in ways I had never done before.
I began to ask myself, why am I doing something I don’t love? Why am I settling? What would make me happy right now? How do I want to feel? Am I really present in this moment? Fear, self-doubt, and listening to others, kept me in that little bubble of comfort and complacency. I always knew I was a creative. I am art, I need to express myself, I cant be micro managed, I like to be able to express myself in my work. After doing hair for the past 8 years.. I finally decided to step out on faith quit my job as a hair stylist last year and go after what I really love, which is fashion! So far it has been an amazing journey but its only the beginning. Looking back I’m upset I let fear hold me back for so long.. However I don’t regret anything about the journey… Not the fear, student loans, the club nights, the tears, the having my laptop stolen, apartment break ins, losing my yoga final, the broke college days, long distance relationships, lonely moments, none of it. It was all a part of the journey.. I’m here now and I’m only going up from here.
Is my life perfect? Of course not! Do I still get sad sometimes? Yes. But do I trust the universe and what it has in store for me. Absolutely. It’s like that popular Instagram post. At this point I just trust the universe so much that IDGAF! Honestly, I’m not making 6 figures yet, but I love my jobs. I love working for myself. I love that I don’t have bosses anymore, I have partners. There is something to be grateful for everyday, even on the low days. I can’t tell you how podcasts like Super Soul Sunday and BGIO (Black Girl In Om), journaling, and even social media have been instrumental in helping me and connecting me with like-minded people on this journey. Starting any journey can be scary, taking a risk, quitting your job, following your dream, it can be difficult but “Speaking and living our truth is the most powerful tool we have.” Everybody’s journey is different but its YOURS. Trust your journey and your process, put in the work, be grateful, be present, set intentions, speak the truth, grow, glow, and let your Goddess show baby!!
Hopefully that gave you a little more insight about me and my journey. My next post will be all about my loc journey. All the details about my thick set of locs will be in the post. So stay tuned!
It’s finally here! Happy New Year boos and baes! Honestly, going into this New Year I felt way out of balance. I felt drained and weighed down with all the responsibilities I had to fufill. As a Libra I can definitely say the scales describe me perfectly. I can feel when my imaginary scales are off balance and it shows in my attitude and my energy. The main reason I think I have been feeling so off is because I have not been taking time to practice yoga. Yoga is what keeps me sane and I shouldn’t neglect it because I have work early or I have to make lunch or whatever other activity pops up demanding all my attention and time. No! This year I’ve learned it is essential to set aside time for ME, MYSELF, AND I. I feel I spend so much time helping, providing services, giving advice, and just being there for other people, I forget that I come first and I have to pour into myself. No one cares about me like I do. So therefore its imperative that I take care of myself, and YOU should too.
Anyway moving on to my 2018 mantra. You ever read a sentence, paragraph, quote, poem, post on ig, etc. and it just resonates with your spirit. Like you feel exactly what the author felt when they wrote those words. I love when that happens. lol That is how I came to my 2018 mantra.
For those of you who dont know what a mantra is, it is a word or sound repeated to aid concentration in meditation. So you may have been in in a yoga class or just in general heard the sound “oooommmmm” That is a mantra. It is a sound, meaning universal oneness, and it can be used/repeated in meditation. So a mantra can be a sound, or a word, or in my case a few sentences. lolAnyway I when I read this I immediately felt it, and said to myself, that’s what I want, and so it shall be.So my mantra for 2018 is
I am grounded. My spirit is grounded deep in the earth. I am calm, strong, centered, and peaceful. I am able to let go of fear and trust that I am eternally safe. I am worthy of all things beautiful.
Oh how I love this. I love this because there is no other feeling than being grounded. “Being grounded is the ability to be completely aware and conscious during the present moment. It means your energy is planted firmly in your body instead of drifting off into airy-fairy land. Being grounded means you have stability, security, and control over your life. It means being ready to handle life’s challenges instead of burying your head in the sand and pretending they aren’t there. It means you are checked in instead of checked out. Being grounded is important so you can face your life instead of running from it. And ironically, being properly grounded can help you reach higher spiritual frequencies.”
So this year I’m going to practice mindfulness even more, by finding more ways to be and stay grounded. I want my energy planted firmly in my body. I am calm, strong, centered, and peaceful. I let go of fear and trust that I am eternally safe. I am worthy of all things beautiful. Come on now! That’s a word!
If this mantra resonates with you please feel free to use it, copy it, post it, whatever you feel. If you have a mantra for 2018 let me know what it is in the comments!